What Situation Are You In?

🌀 Gaslighting

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• You’re told events didn’t happen that you remember happening.
• Your reaction is treated as the problem, not the action that caused it.
• You start second-guessing your memory, your timing, your version.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Date, time, exact quote (or as close as you can recall), what was denied, and your physical state afterward. Screenshots of messages where they walked it back.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — one-page printable for daily incidents.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Gaslighting Response Journal — $9.00 →
Document reality, track evidence, protect your version of events.

📱 Cheating Suspicion

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• Sudden phone-protection behavior, new passwords, screen tilted away.
• Unexplained absences, schedule changes, or new “work” obligations.
• Your gut keeps flagging something you can’t fully name yet.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Timeline of behavior changes with dates. Specific incidents (who, what, when, where). Receipts, calendar entries, location pings that contradict what you were told.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — quick daily log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Red Flag Log Tracker — $12.00 →
Pattern + evidence log for relationship inconsistencies.

⚖️ Custody Conflict

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• You’re heading to family court or anticipating a custody dispute.
• The other parent is rewriting events or missing exchanges.
• You need an organized, dated record an attorney can actually use.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Every exchange, missed pickup, and message thread. Indexed screenshots with dates. Parenting time log with timestamps.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — daily incident log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Custody Court Evidence Organizer — $14.99 →
Screenshot index, communication log, court-ready format.

📅 Co-Parenting Conflict

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• Communication is hostile, controlling, or one-sided.
• Schedules, expenses, or holidays keep “changing” after the fact.
• You’re managing the relationship by yourself and need a shared record.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Communication logs (who initiated, what was said, when). Expense receipts and reimbursement requests. Schedule changes with dates.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — incidents and communications log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Co-Parenting Court Documentation System — $27.99 →
Incident, expense, and communication logs in one printable.

🏢 Toxic Workplace

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• Your boss yells, isolates, or sets you up for failure.
• HR keeps redirecting you instead of investigating.
• Performance reviews don’t match the actual feedback you’ve been getting.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Every incident with date, time, witnesses, and verbatim quotes. Email threads that contradict spoken statements. Forward important messages to a personal account.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — daily workplace incident log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Toxic Boss Documentation Kit — $9.99 →
HR- and legal-ready record for hostile work environments.

🗣️ Smear Campaign

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• Mutual friends, family, or coworkers have started repeating things about you that aren’t true.
• Someone is rewriting shared history to position you as the unstable one.
• You’re losing relationships you can’t explain or defend in real-time.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

What was said, by whom, to whom, when. The original event vs. the version being repeated. Screenshots, voice messages, witness names.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — incident and quote log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Smear Campaign Evidence Log — $12.00 →
Court-ready format for reputation-attack documentation.

🪞 Narcissistic Abuse Documentation

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• You’re in or out of a cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard.
• DARVO, hoovering, or silent treatments are routine.
• You need a record to keep your version of events intact for yourself.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Cycle phases with dates. Specific quotes (love-bomb, devaluing, hoover messages). Pattern of escalation and withdrawal.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — incident, tactic, and cycle log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Coercive Control Incident Log — $11.00 →
Pattern tracker for narcissistic abuse and emotional control. Pair with the Narcissistic Abuse Legal Evidence Kit ($13) for court prep.

❓ Emotional Withdrawal / Relationship Confusion

YOU MAY NEED THIS IF…

• Hot, cold, hot, gone. Breadcrumbs, future-faking, then silence.
• You can’t tell if something’s actually wrong or if you’re overreacting.
• You feel pulled back in every time you try to step away.

WHAT TO DOCUMENT FIRST

Frequency of contact, tone shifts, broken promises, withdrawal events with dates. Their words during good periods vs. silent periods.

FREE TOOL

The Pattern Tracker → — daily relationship log.

RECOMMENDED TOOLKIT

Manipulation Tactics Survival Kit — $14.00 →
Hoovering, grey rock, and love-bombing reference guide.

DON’T SEE YOUR SITUATION?

The Custom Documentation System adapts to anything.

Evidence binder, timeline builder, and incident logs that work for co-parenting, divorce, toxic workplace, elder abuse, and more.